We Memphians are known for our hospitality. If you happen to meet someone from the Royal Family, please respect his or her privacy so our royal guests can relax and enjoy the South. Just be relaxed and comfortable – not like you’re putting on airs or trying to imitate your guests. Be yourself – with a few minor changes.
Greeting a member of the Royal Family:
When meeting anyone from the Royal Family, Americans aren’t expected to curtsy or bow, but a slight nod is a nice sign of respect. Do not initiate a handshake until the member of the Royal Family has extended his or her hand. If/when that happens, many people become excited and shake too hard. Be gentle.
According to Robert Hickey, deputy director of The Protocol School of Washington, when speaking to a male member of the Royal Family, refer to him as “Your Royal Highness” on first reference and “sir” on all following references. When addressing a female member of the Royal Family, on first reference, refer to her as “Your Royal Highness” and as “Ma’am” on all following references. Hickey says it’s considered rude to refer to Prince Charles, Prince Philip, or Princess Anne; instead, you should opt for The Prince of Wales, The Duke of Edinburgh, and The Princess Royal. “His Royal Highness” or “Her Royal Highness” may also be used, though be sure to qualify whom exactly you are referring to.
In the South, we are “huggers.” In Royal Protocol, do not touch or invade upon the family member’s space without a clear invitation. As mentioned, no gripping or pumping handshakes. Do not hug, kiss on the cheek or touch the shoulder. Even in photographs, keep a little space between and your hands to your sides unless the Royals indicate otherwise. In England, you would never turn your back on the Queen or even take her elbow to direct her.
Let the member of the royal family start the conversation. Don’t try to change the subject, and ask only the politest of questions. For instance, you may ask, “How are you enjoying Memphis?” not “How is the baby doing?”
Each member of the royal family travels with his or her own “household,” so If you are unsure about something, a member of the royal household is of great help and will answer any questions. Be thoughtful and considerate when approaching one of the royal households: try to have your questions ready in advance.
© Penny Aviotti and Ms.Corporate Manners 2003 – 2014.