When I was young, my mom would purchase new Easter dresses, sometimes even hats, accompanied by patent leather shoes and white gloves for my sisters and me. She admonished us to never wear jewelry over our gloves (tacky) and to always remove them before dinner was served. (Very Tacky.) Mostly obedient, my Mickey Mouse watch stayed home during Easter festivities.
This holiday, there’s no need for new Easter outfits, and hand sanitizer and protective latex gloves have become more valuable than golden eggs.
Medical professionals wear protective gloves to prevent the spread of germs to themselves or their patients. We mere mortals have begun wearing gloves to the grocery store, pushing the cart, squeezing tomatoes, scrolling on our phones, assuming our gloves are protecting us against coronavirus germs. With them on, we dig through our purse or wallet to find cash or credit cards. When we get into the car, gloves are discarded into the grocery basket or tossed in the parking lot. What poor manners!
Whatever we touch with our glove is transferred in the same way it would be if we touched it with our bare hands. Our gloves have become a type of second skin for us.
According to the Center for Disease Control, wearing gloves improperly may create a false sense of safety that offers us and others little or no protection. Ironically, gloves can make things worse.
Coronavirus comes in through our face – our eyes, our mouth, our nose. If you are more comfortable wearing gloves, think about what you touch when wearing them and carefully pull them on and off.
Here’s the PROPER way the CDC is asking us to pull off latex gloves:
- Grasp the outside of one glove at the wrist. Do not touch your bare skin.
- Peel the glove away from your body, pulling it inside out.
- Hold the glove you just removed in your gloved hand.
- Peel off the second glove by putting your fingers inside the glove at the top of your wrist.
- Turn the second glove inside out while pulling it away from your body, leaving the first glove inside the second.
- Dispose of the gloves safely. (Please don’t leave them in the grocery basket or parking lot.) Do not reuse contaminated gloves.
- Clean your hands immediately after removing gloves.
With our without gloves, if you pick up a product in the grocery store, please don’t put it back. Buy it, carry it home, and wash it before putting it away.
Be mindful about placing your groceries in the trunk of your car instead of on the seat. Sanitize your car door handle, trunk latch, keys, groceries and anything else you’ve touched. Make a quick beeline to the bathroom as soon as you get home to wash your hands FOR AT LEAST 20 SECONDS. Make sure to scrub those fingernails while you’re at it.
Be nice, be clean, and if you choose gloves, behave properly in them.
Ms. Corporate Manners
Dear Ms. Corporate Manners,
I wear a lapel pin and then put a name tag on at networking events. I never know which side to wear them. Any advice?
Don’t Have a Clue
Place your name tag above the pocket on the right side of your shirt, blouse or blazer. That way people can make direct eye contact with you and your name will be in their direct line of sight when you shake hands. The theory is the eye travels up the right arm and focuses on the name tag attached to the right shoulder. Wear your lapel pin on the left side of your jacket. According to the United States Flag Code, an American flag pin represents a living country and is itself considered a living thing. Therefore, it is worn near the heart. Happy mingling!
Ms. Corporate Manners
Dear Ms Corporate Manners,
Is it proper for a woman to have a terribly strong handshake? I recently met someone and we shook hands. Boy, did I regret that as soon as it happened. She squeezed my hand so hard that it still hurt even after she left. A few other women in my area met her as well and experienced the same thing. Should I have addressed my concern with the “new friend” or just let it go?
Ouch! Nice to meet you
Some women have weak handshakes, and maybe she accidentally over-compensated, so I would “let it go.” I teach an entire class on how to shake hands because people judge us by our handshakes, and we unconsciously judge others by their handshakes.
Here are seven things to remember when you shake hands:
- The person who extends a hand first has the advantage of taking the initiative and establishing control.
- Since you need to leave your right hand free for the shake, in a social situation, it’s a good idea to hold your beverage in your left hand to avoid shaking with a cold right hand.
- Stand up straight, smile, and make friendly, direct eye contact.
- Extend your hand with the thumb up and fingers out. Meet the person’s grip web-to-web.
- Shake from the elbow, not the wrist or shoulder.
- Shake hands crisply, firmly, with two smooth pumps before releasing the hand.
- Remember to make sure every meeting, business or social, begins and ends with a handshake.
Ms. Corporate Manners
© Penny Aviotti and Ms.Corporate Manners 2003 – 2018.
Dear Ms. Corp. Manners,
It seems that every time I go into the bathroom now, someone in the other stall is texting on a cell phone (or on occasion TALKING!) I find this disturbing and unsanitary, to say the least. Aren’t bathrooms considered part of the workplace environment where cell phones are not allowed?
Potty in Peace
A recent study says that 75 percent of Americans admit to using their smartphones while on the toilet. In a survey of of 1,000 people, the marketing agency 11mark found toilet texting, shopping or surfing the Web is particularly popular among 28 to 35-years-old, with a reported 91 percent of that age group admitting to the habit. Among those 65 and older, however, only 47 percent admitted to using their mobile devices on the toilet.
Yes, toilet texters are incredibly annoying. (Can you imagine being on the other end of THOSE calls?) But we can’t control other people’s behavior, only our own. Mind your own (toilet) manners. Think kind thoughts as you go about your own (toilet) business. And remember, earplugs cover a multitude of sins.
Ms. Corporate Manners
© Penny Aviotti and Ms.Corporate Manners 2003 – 2018.
I am both fascinated and appalled by today’s politics. Like watching a train wreck, I am glued to news shows that upset me and political subjects I’ve formerly considered taboo. “Never discuss politics or religion” is great advice, but with today’s upcoming election, that suggestion has gone by the wayside. Talk politics, but keep it polite.
You do want to avoid expressing personal opinions on Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn. According to a recent Intel Mobile Etiquette study on mobile etiquette and digital sharing, 90 percent of U.S. adults think others share too much information online and 39 percent say they choose not to associate with people with whom they disagree on political opinions.
A polite political discussion is in a respectful, two-way conversation. Let the other person state his or her opinion without interrupting. Ask questions, listen to learn and understand, and you may find yourself actually enjoying another perspective. If the conversation starts to get heated, don’t resort to name calling or shaming. Maintain control by keeping your own voice low and your tone nonthreatening. If all else fails, smile and say, “Well, I enjoy your perspective, but we obviously don’t agree and are not going to change each others’ minds, so let’s change the subject instead.”
Ms. Politically Incorrect Corporate Manners
Good things are rarely accomplished alone. Tonight Barrie Wurzburg kicked off the 2016 Modern Day Woman’s Conference at Joseph this evening. The conference was orchestrated by the Women’s Foundation of Memphis and will continue tomorrow at Baptist Memphis Education Center, Garrett Auditorium. Barrie is a third-generation entrepreneur of a family-owned business that sells designer shoes, handbags and jewelry, and just one of the many women from diverse professional sectors that will share their wisdom on topics ranging from women’s health and wellness to career development and leadership. More importantly, other women like Barrie will share real-world experience with younger women, and hopefully, mentor-mentoee relationships will form. This is just one of many great things going on in Memphis.
True confession. My voice carries, and I often become so caught up in work, I forget to tone it down. I’m just hoping you aren’t MY co-worker! But that won’t stop me from offering advice anyway.
There’s nothing wrong with reminding someone like me to be quiet or retreating to the conference room for a private meeting or conversation. You’ll be less frustrated and find it easier to concentrate.
Speaking of concentrating, the best employees get into a flow at work, becoming productive and engaged. Challenge yourself to tune out distractions and have a razor focus on your work.
Nix the speakerphone and don’t forget, because there isn’t a door to close, to ask if it’s a convenient time before you walk into someone’s cubicle unannounced or talk over the wall. Also, in an open office, it’s easy to eavesdrop unintentionally on conversations, but if you learn to tune them out, you’ll be a more popular co-worker.
Ms. Corporate (and somewhat loud) Manners
We Memphians are known for our hospitality. If you happen to meet someone from the Royal Family, please respect his or her privacy so our royal guests can relax and enjoy the South. Just be relaxed and comfortable – not like you’re putting on airs or trying to imitate your guests. Be yourself – with a few minor changes.
Greeting a member of the Royal Family:
When meeting anyone from the Royal Family, Americans aren’t expected to curtsy or bow, but a slight nod is a nice sign of respect. Do not initiate a handshake until the member of the Royal Family has extended his or her hand. If/when that happens, many people become excited and shake too hard. Be gentle.
According to Robert Hickey, deputy director of The Protocol School of Washington, when speaking to a male member of the Royal Family, refer to him as “Your Royal Highness” on first reference and “sir” on all following references. When addressing a female member of the Royal Family, on first reference, refer to her as “Your Royal Highness” and as “Ma’am” on all following references. Hickey says it’s considered rude to refer to Prince Charles, Prince Philip, or Princess Anne; instead, you should opt for The Prince of Wales, The Duke of Edinburgh, and The Princess Royal. “His Royal Highness” or “Her Royal Highness” may also be used, though be sure to qualify whom exactly you are referring to.
In the South, we are “huggers.” In Royal Protocol, do not touch or invade upon the family member’s space without a clear invitation. As mentioned, no gripping or pumping handshakes. Do not hug, kiss on the cheek or touch the shoulder. Even in photographs, keep a little space between and your hands to your sides unless the Royals indicate otherwise. In England, you would never turn your back on the Queen or even take her elbow to direct her.
Let the member of the royal family start the conversation. Don’t try to change the subject, and ask only the politest of questions. For instance, you may ask, “How are you enjoying Memphis?” not “How is the baby doing?”
Each member of the royal family travels with his or her own “household,” so If you are unsure about something, a member of the royal household is of great help and will answer any questions. Be thoughtful and considerate when approaching one of the royal households: try to have your questions ready in advance.
© Penny Aviotti and Ms.Corporate Manners 2003 – 2014.